It is not uncommon to want everything to run smoothly, however, some people take it to an extreme. Have you ever had friends or family label you as a perfectionist? It may be a badge you wear with pride. Sometimes, you can set standards so high, that they are even impossible for you. If perfectionism hinders your daily activities and goal planning, try some of these helpful hints for overcoming it.

Stop Taking Yourself So Seriously

Do you base every decision on what others may think? While we can consider other people’s opinions, the ultimate decision is ours. Does it matter that all your glasses are turned the same way in the cabinet, or your car has a little ding in the bumper? Most of the things you fret about probably are not even noticed by others.

Take a breath, relax, and be yourself. Stop sabotaging your social life just because you think you think that nothing in your life “measures up”. Give yourself the same courtesy that you would show to others. Instead of focusing on things that are not perfect in your life, concentrate on the blessings you have.

Do Not Use Perfectionism As An Excuse

How many times have you set aside your dreams and used perfectionism as an excuse? You may say that unless you can maintain a 4.0-grade average, you will not go back to school. What about hobbies you have wanted to pursue, or your dreams of traveling? Your excuse may be that if it does not unfold as you planned, then forget it. These façades may hide the fact that you are nervous to try something new.

Write down some of your goals, and break them down into segments. Instead of dreading mistakes, embrace them as a chance to grow and learn. Celebrate each step to your final goal—whether it is perfect or not.

Let Up A Little On Others

Not only do perfectionists put unreal expectations on themselves, but they also apply them to others. Instead of being grateful and considerate of the people around you, do you constantly find fault and express disappointment in everyone? Maybe your parents were perfectionists, and their skewed reality affected you.

Giving people slack does not mean you give up on high standards. It means that you accept others as they are, and make the most of what you have. Offer your children loving guidance and encouragement instead of condemnation and criticism. Your relationship with family and friends will improve.

While you try to overcome perfectionism, remember that it is a process that will not be perfect. If you try too hard to change, then it can be self-defeating. Learn to take life as it comes, and enjoy every step of your journey.

Take care,